This weeks topic is - Survival Guide! We had the option of choosing either a First Date Survival Guide, A Wedding Day Survival Guide, A Night Out Survival Guide or A Festival Survival Guide.
Being single, A First Date Survival Guide seemed to be the most obvious choice for my subject this week. Personally, I hate the dating scene. At least, the initial first few dates after a break up. I've been lucky enough in the past in that I have never been on any disastrous dates. 99% of them have been pretty good. I'd like to consider myself a good judge of character. If I get on with someone or if there's a connection, I find that's a good start. I've learned to always trust my gut when it comes to relationships, because, guess what ladies, it never lies!!! That's all well and good if you meet the person on a night out or if you actually know them as a friend before hand, but what if you only met them online? It's a lot harder to get to know someone through text/mail. Especially with this Catfish programme out now, you really don't know who you're talking to until you meet them! So here is my survival guide for date night for boys and girls! :)
Rule #2 - location, location, location. Pick somewhere you will feel comfortable. I personally think the cinema is probably the worst place to go on a first date. Sitting in the dark for 2-3 hours not talking to each other is no way to get to know someone. I don't really like eating in front of people I don't know either. Especially if it's something like chicken wings - not flattering! So perhaps a nice cosy pub thats not too loud might suit, horse riding, ice skating... You name it, whatever works. But something you can have a bit of fun with and a few laughs.
Rule #3 - plan an escape. I know this sounds so dramatic and I really hope you don't ever have to use this one, but its something that needs to be considered. Especially if you've met this person on the net and you're getting weird vibes from them in the first five minutes. Have a friend call or text after a certain period of time maybe? Sometimes knowing a friend is in the area can be an added comfort. Either way, the chances of needing to use this one are slim, but not unheard of. You don't want to have to leg it out of the emergency exit 10 minutes after your arrival. Or maybe you do.... It'll make for a good story later! ;)
Rule #4 - enjoy yourself! Sometimes we get so caught up in the moment with nerves taking over, we forget to just loose ourselves in the moment and just be ourselves. Think of light subjects to chat about, keep it fun and simple, laugh and just be you. If you find any of that is difficult for you with the person in question, then maybe he's not the one for you.
Rule #5, and this is a big one for me - do not talk about your ex! You scored the hot guy, there was a connection, you got the date, you put in the effort to look extra nice for him... And then the exs crop up. I think it's pretty self explanatory. No one wants to sit there and listen to a potential suitor talk about his long lost love, Mary, the one who got away. Or Fidelma, with the lips like a duvet. Come on! Its common courtesy for the current person you are dating to not talk about these people. At least until you have built enough trust in each other for the topic to come up. But if you're struggling to not talk about them, maybe you should ask yourself why they are constantly coming up? The conversation always comes around to what is currently on your mind. From personal experience, this literally destroyed the trust and confidence in a relationship that had the potential to be something so beautiful. This also works both ways ladies. Guys have feelings too you know!
So thats my survival guide to a first date. Have any of you had weird or wonderful dates? Share the wealth please! :)
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